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Saturday, November 27, 2010

Should I Feel Insulted?

Hey you all! Looky looky now--two posts in one day! But this is one that I meant to do several days ago and then I got caught up in the turkey day preparations...

Anyway, here it goes--long story short...a coworker and I were talking the other day, and she commented about the loc style that I had going on, you know, saying how much she liked how it looked, how I always had an interesting style goin' on, etc. she then asked me if I could ever take my locs down if I wanted to and then she made a comment about how usually she doesn't like the look of locs because she's seen a number of white people with them and they always looked dirty and nasty, and so on. She then made a very pointed comment--"but yours always look really clean and well kept and I just gotta ask, how do you wash that STUFF?!" I looked at her (with a slight *cut you off at the knee side eye*) and responded "the same way you wash your "stuff"! Now, we get along quite well (she's white) and all, but I did feel a small dig of indignation at my hair being called "stuff" as if it were a giant dirtball or something. Said coworker quickly came back with "I wasn't trying to insult you; you know what I mean, how do you wash your hair, locs, or whatever you call them!" Now, I want to feel and truly believe that she really meant no harm do you refer to someone's hair--anyone's hair as "STUFF"? To tell you the truth, this one phrasing has insulted me more than any other comment that has been made about my hair in the almost three years that I've been loc'd. So tell me the honest truth y'all--am I being just way too sensitive? Love to hear your take on this! Blessings!

Same Old Argument...Again!

Thanks to Brittany (hey b girl!) from the Loc Rocker blog ( for this one. (check out her blog--it's great!) But my question--why are we still having to worry/prove our professionalism when it comes to how we wear our hair? In my mind, someone that uses intelligence and tact to perform their job to their highest ability in the workplace is a professional; professionality (is that a word?) is NOT dependent upon how one wears their hair. Let me tell y'all, I've seem some "melanin deficient" (HAHAHA! a friend's term for "white people") folks looking truly like who-did-it-and-why in the workplace, and their "professionality"
wasn't/isn't questioned, regardless of what they look like or how they wear their hair? I mean really, have we not progressed at all?!? WTF?!? I AM PROFESSIONAL because I act professionally, no matter if my hair is permed, natural or loc'd. 'Nuff said...blessings!

Sunday, November 7, 2010


Hello all of my fellow loc'rs! Yes, I am still around, although I haven't updated in quite a while. I'll give you a short synopsis of what has been going on in my life and with my locs. In my last posting I believe that I mentioned that work was really stressing me out and taking up quite a bit of my time (boy, what an understatement!) Anyway, if I didn't say that, I'm saying it (almost) entire life has been consumed by work. This, however, will be changing drastically in about 8-10 weeks. My store, of which I am the manager, will be permanently closing and I will be among the unemployed. Now, before you weep for me and gnash your teeth, don't feel bad for me. I feel bad that the store is closing and I feel badly for my coworkers losing their jobs, but I don't feel badly for myself and neither should you. In fact, the day I found out about the closing, I'd given my manager notice that I was stepping down from the manager position due to health issues. I've been having ongoing problems with an irregular heartbeat and chest pains and a possible ulcer and of course, these problems can be majorly aggravated by inordinate amounts of stress. So, although I did struggle with making the decision to step down from the post, once I'd made the decision I felt so much better because I knew that the stress levels would eventually level out. Now, it's just a matter of getting through the liquidation process. I've got several options and irons in the fire right now, and I know that S/He WILL NOT let me fall so all will be as it should be. The other thing that I need to now concentrate on is getting my health in a better place.

Now, to keep this loc related: I will soon be three years loc'd (january 4, 2011)--I can hardly believe it! Remember my first posting--it was in celebration of my 6 month anniversary. WOW--it seems like such a short time ago. My locs were really just baby comb coils and very, very small--seems like my head was huge then and now...the locs have matured beautifully and they are past my shoulders. I've just left them alone to do their thing and they have done their thing very well with very little direction from me. I don't have a really good pic right now--will have to get someone to take one for me as my reach isn't long enough now to show the full length LOL! I'll get a couple of pics posted soon so that you all can see. My hair is healthy and I'm happy, especially since I can do all sorts of updo's now (updo's are my favorite!) My locs are still evolving as is my spirit and both are evolving for the better. Blessings to all of you that have hung in with me and have prayed with me and for me as I have prayed for all of you. Wishing you all well in your journeys and I hope to be back to regular postings soon. Blessings, hugs and peace...
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